Regal Inspiration: Prince William and Princess Kate

Beneath all of the pomp and circumstance of today’s Royal Wedding of Prince William and Princess Catherine, Duke & Duchess of Cambridge was a young, modern couple who made the wedding their own with grace and class.

Prince William & Princess Kate, the Duke & Duchess of Cambridge

Prince William & Princess Kate, the Duke & Duchess of Cambridge

It began with Kate’s request that ladies wear hats and oh the fascinators were out in all of their glory!  Watching the guests arrive was nothing short of watching the red carpet on Oscar’s Night.  And did you see David and Victoria Beckham?!  Becks was a dapper showstopper in his mourning coat – the camera’s couldn’t stop going back to him.

Princesses Eugenie & Beatrice

David & Victoria Beckham

The ever-so-stylish Beckhams

 

Classic elegance by Mother of the Bride Carole Middleton, The Queen and Step-Mother of the Groom Camilla

Kate wore a classically elegant and beautiful dress reminiscent of Princess Grace (actress Grace Kelly) by Sarah Burton for Alexander McQueen and carried a modest bouquet.  According to the royal press release, “The bouquet is a shield-shaped wired bouquet of myrtle, lily-of-the-valley, sweet William and hyacinth. The bouquet was designed by Shane Connolly and draws on the traditions of flowers of significance for the Royal Family, the Middleton family and on the Language of Flowers.”   Kate also looked beautiful wearing a borrowed vintage Cartier halo tiara given to Queen Elizabeth by the Queen Mother on her 18th birthday.

Kate Middleton wears Sara Burton for McQueen

Kate Middleton entering Westminster Abbey wearing Sara Burton for McQueen reflected her own personal style. Simple, classic and elegant.

 

William looked absolutely regal in his scarlet red uniform of Colonel of the Irish Guards topped with a blue sash.  The royal wedding party stylishly mimicked the bride and groom with Prince Harry in his military uniform and bucking tradition, sister of the bride and maid of honor Pippa wearing an ivory gown.  I thought it was a stunning move and I bet we’ll be seeing this again!

Prince William, Kate Middleton & Father

Prince Will to his father-in-law, "We were just supposed to have a small family affair."

Pippa and flower girls

Maid of Honor and Sister of the Bride, Pippa Middleton escorts the flower girls

Prince William and Prince Harry

The dashing Princes

Prince William and Princess Kate kiss on the balcony

A Historic first - TWO balcony kisses!

The trees lining the halls of Westminster Abbey were Canadian Maples brought in to  honor the Commonwealth of Canada (Oh Canada! My home and native land…)

In a dramatic twist Prince William did the first wardrobe change and switched to his blue RAF flight lieutenant’s uniform for the couple’s stylish and historic getaway driving his Dad’s, Prince Charles, Astin Martin (I’m sure all you grooms out there are having car envy!!)  The couple enjoyed some quiet time to themselves before rejoining the festivities.

Prince William Astin Martin

Today Prince William was the envy of every gent. He got the Princess & the Astin Martin!

The Queen’s reception following the wedding is only the first party of  the day and will feature an 8-tiered regal bridal fruit cake AND a chocolate biscuit Groom’s cake (the groom’s favorite).

Royal Wedding Cake

The Royal Wedding Cake

Royal Wedding style takeaways:

  • Honor tradition, but make your wedding your own in small details.  Those small nods to your personal style will really stand out. 
  • Give your guests direction with wedding attire, be it traditional or fun Destination Wedding twists like “gentlemen in Tropical Shirts, ladies in sundresses and bejeweled flip flops” or ask your guests to dress in shades of your wedding color.  Make your guests a part of the décor. (Result:  really great wedding images!!)
  • Channel your inner-Princess with a vintage tiara http://www.vintagetiarasbyjuliabeazley.com/Home.html
  • Switch up your processional from the American tradition of having the bridesmaids and bridal party walk ahead of the bride and make a royal entrance with them trailing you.  This is actually a great idea on the beach where often wedding dress trains can snag or pick up “hitchhikers” along the way.
  • Go Green!  See former SunCelebrity Hollis’ Princess Perfect Destination Wedding on St Croix – Perhaps Princess Kate stole some of her fairytale style?! 
  • Build in a little quiet time after the ceremony just to yourselves in order to center yourselves and truly be in the moment.
  • Throw your groom a bone and include a Groom’s cake of his choosing – or surprise him with one in his favorite flavor. Afterall, its his wedding too!

In Honor of Earth Day

In honor of Earth Day, I thought a post about trees would be appropriate.  Especially this tree…

kapok tree villa greenleaf st croix

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I have always had a fascination with big, beautiful trees having grown up in New England.  Working at the Institute for American Indian Studies in Washington, CT furthered that love and reverence for the giants of the forest.  There we taught a class on the many uses and significance of various trees to the Woodland Indians of New England: green Birch tree branches used for tooth brushes, splits of the mighty Ash Tree woven into marvelous baskets, White Birch bark for wigwams, canoes and buckets, etc.  However, recently I “stumbled” across a truly majestic tree in St Croix that really captivated me – the mighty Kapok at Villa Greenleaf.

The Kapok (Ceiba pentandra) or Silk Cotton tree is indigenous to the rainforests of South America and is now spread throughout the Caribbean, West Africa and even as far as the Malay Peninsula and Indonesian archipelago.  Pollinated by bats, the tree sheds its leaves during the dry winter months with leaves and white or pink flowers remerging during the wetter spring months. It produces brown seed pods that contain a fibrous, fluffy white material that is 8-times lighter than cotton and 5-times more buoyant than cork.  Before synthetics, the fibers were used in pillows, mattresses and because it is water-proof, were used in flotation devices.  The leaves and bark can be used medicinally to cure a variety of ailments, including Type II diabetes.  The Kapok’s straight trunk is supported by huge beautiful buttresses that can extend out 30-feet, surround the trunk and are covered with spikes protecting the otherwise smooth bark.  Kapoks can exceed heights of 150 feet.

The Mayans revered the Ceiba (say-bah) as the tree of life whose roots extended to the underworld and branches reached up to support the heavens. It was used to make large and sturdy, sea-worthy canoes that allowed them to travel from island to island.   In West Indian culture, this mighty behemoth was considered a sacred spirit tree. Referred to as the “God Tree”, “Devil Tree” or “Jumbie Tree” it is believed to be inhabited by spirits.  Cutting down a Kapok would release the spirits and the culprit would be haunted for years.

Known as the “jumbie tree” to many natives, the kapok has long been considered a primary spirit tree of the West Indies. With its huge buttressed roots and gargantuan dimensions the kapok can’t help but draw the eye and fire the imagination. “In a traditional environment devoid of man-made wonders such as towers and temples, obelisks, and so forth,” writes Nicholls, “a ficus or kapok would stand out and it is not so surprising that these trees were identified as spirit trees.” Kapok trees were considered a holding place for departed souls and a place where the living could meet the dead. Eggs were thrown at certain kapoks that were known to be spirit trees in order to free a person’s shadow or soul that had been stolen by a jumbie.  – Professor Robert W. Nicholls, University of the Virgin Islands

The incredible Kapok that anchors the property and is the logo symbol of Villa Greenleaf on St Croix has been estimated by experts to be approximately 350 years old making it one of the oldest and largest trees in the US Virgin Islands.  Lovingly and carefully attended to, the tree’s breathtaking beauty can be marveled at while enjoying breakfast at the Villa/Bed and Breakfast.  It’s been the subject of many artists and on your next visit to Villa Greenleaf I’m sure you’ll discover why.

Villa Greenleaf Kapok Branch

Monkey No Climb!

 Villa Greenleaf is a Bed & Breakfast nestled into the hills of Montpellier on St Croix.  The property boasts 5 upscale accommodations, beautifully appointed with casual West Indian-style furnishings and each with its own private screen porch and rooftop sun deck.  The villa pool overlooks a sweeping view of Judith’s Fancy & Salt River and out to the Caribbean Sea.  Common areas offer plenty of opportunity for outdoor entertaining and the meticulously manicured grounds provide a classic Caribbean setting.  Villa Greenleaf can also be booked as a private villa accommodating 10 guests and is the perfect setting for Executive Meetings, Family and Leisure Groups and Weddings.  Contact us for more details!

Cruise Ship Weddings

I simply love cruise ship weddings – they are so incredibly festive.  Whether its a couple cruising on a romantic weddingmoon or a couple joined by family and friends, everyone is so full of joy and excitement!  Its such a thrill when I arrive at the Frederiksted Pier in the morning to welcome the wedding couple and begin to share with them our beautiful island.  The Frederiksted waterfront is always bustling and alive on cruise ship mornings and I always make sure I’m there early enough to hit my favorite spot – Polly’s at the Pier - for a quick cup of coffee.



Since cruising couples have a shortened time on the island – first we meet them and escort them directly to the Superior Court to have them sworn in for their Marriage License, then its straight on to the ceremony spot.  I find that most of our brides take advantage of the onboard spas prior to meeting with me and always look wedding day perfect! 

By hiring a wedding planner for your Cruise ship wedding, you ensure that even with a tight schedule things run smoothly and you simply enjoy your special day.  We carefully craft timelines that get you where you need to be, when you need to be there.  We coordinate the Officiant, photographer and transportation so that all you need to do is slip into your wedding day attire and walk down the aisle.  We even offer customized packages for short receptions.  The beauty of having someone who lives in your port is that we know what locations are going to be crowded with fellow passengers and which spots may be a little more quiet and romantic.  We also know how long it takes to get from point A to point B and all the little nuances in between.

If you are visiting St Croix on a cruise ship and want to get married while you’re here – Contact Us Today – or view some of our Elope packages to get you started.  We are always available to offer a custom quote for couples who want a little more.

To see some of the Cruise Ship Weddings we’ve done – check out:

Jenny and Randy  :: Feb 2, 2011 visiting aboard the Royal Caribbean Serenade of the Seas

Jocielyn & Steve :: Dec 8, 2009 visiting aboard the Celebrity Millenium


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To register or not – that is the question!

Particularly for destination weddings, it is a nice idea to register for wedding gifts in advance. This gives your guests some no-brainer options (which they most often appreciate) for your wedding gift and also ensures that you don’t end up with things that you just don’t need. Nowadays so many couples live together prior to the wedding and have already set up a home. This actually makes it tougher for your guests to know “what to give”.

So, do them a favor and shop in advance for your own gifts by registering online with your favorite retailer. Registering online is easy and fun – afterall you are shopping without spending $$

Be sure to include information on your registries (yes, you can sign up for more than one) in your invitations (and don’t forget usernames and passwords if needed) *and* on your wedding website! (I can’t stress enough how invaluable wedding websites are)

… Here are a few ideas/suggestions for some alternative registry options as well:

> Honeymoon Registries
A growing trend, particularly for couples who ALREADY have two toasters and plenty of blenders. We like Traveler’s Joy You simply set up an account, choose your options and guests can help to fund your parasailing, jet skiing and dining delights.

Why we like it: They have one of the lowest fees in the industry at 7.5%; no set up fee and no guest fee. What this means is that you will not be charged anything to set up the account, your guests won’t be charged anything, but when you cash out for your honeymoon Traveler’s Joy will keep $7.50 of every $100 for their services. Not bad, right?!
Visit Traveler’s Joy for Honeymoon Tips

*Hot Tip* :: Have an Island-themed “Jack & Jill” shower to get in the Destination Wedding mood and let your guests know in advance that you have a honeymoon registry! This is also a great way to celebrate with friends and loved ones who may not be able to make the trip.

Travelers Joy Honeymoon Registry

> Be Charitable
Some couples simply have enough “stuff” and don’t really want more nor do they want their guests to feel obligated to purchase anything for them. However, some guests really feel compelled to offer a gift of some sort, so why not support a charitable cause that you feel strongly about?
The I Do Foundation is an EXCELLENT resource. You can set up a registry here offering an easy way for your guests to celebrate your new life together with the cause of your choice. The website is also full of ideas for ways to be more charitable and eco-consious in all of your wedding planning.

Another great idea: Make a charitable donation INSTEAD of favors at your wedding and then print a note on placecards.

Example: In June of 2009, Rose & Jeff, both physicians, got married here on St Croix. On the table were placecards with guests’ names and a note: In lieu of favors we have made a donation to ‘Doctors without Borders’

> Some of my favorite Gift Registries
I’ve included links directly to the registry pages for you to easily set things up:

Do you have a favorite registry that you think other brides would love? Let us know and we’ll add it to the list!

Travel Tips from a savvy stranded Traveler

Happy New Year everyone!!

Maine Lobster Dinner

My New Year's Eve travel delay was made a little better with freshly steamed Maine Lobster and Legal Seafood Clam Chowder for dinner with family!

I hope that everyone had an excellent time celebrating the dawn of 2011.  I had the unexpected pleasure of spending it with family which was really nice, however it was the result of a travel delay returning from the Boston area (did you hear about the day-after-Christmas Blizzard?! Well, my delay was mechanical but further complicated by the week of excessive cancellations and delays).  My personal experience wasn’t too bad, I was able to go back to my mother’s home and start over the next day which so many were not able to do. I’m a pretty savvy traveler and requested to be rebooked the next day after spending 5 1/2 hours waiting to find out if the plane would ever take off … and knowing that there was little to no chance I would catch my connecting flight in San Juan to St Croix… did you know you can do that?!  So, it inspired me to blog about my experience and  offer some tips from a seasoned traveler and destination wedding planner.

I seem to have had “challenging” luck when travelling over the past year and a half.  Over the past 4 times I have travelled home from Boston to St Croix, I’ve been over-nighted somewhere 3 times.  And once the year before that.  Thankfully, this isn’t as prevalent as it sounds, I just seem to be “lucky” (hey universe, I’d prefer the lottery kind of luck, thank you).  The first time in 2009 was a mechanical or scheduling issue in San Juan (the airline covered hotel and food); the second was Dec 29, 2009 when the entire San Juan airport was shut down due to volcanic ash from Montserrat (a nearby volcanic island); the third was in April, major storms that caused tornadoes and severe damage were passing through the Miami airspace as we were supposed to land… we were diverted and the delays caused me to miss my connection; Dec 31, 2010 our plane had mechanical issues. 

Because of my extensive experience with delays, frequency of travel and being affiliated with the travel industry I have a few very important tips to pass along: 

  1. Insurance, Insurance – use it!  I fly American Airlines whenever I can www.aa.com (I like to stick with one airline and rack up the mileage).  When booking a ticket online, it always asks me before finalizing my purchase if I want to add the optional insurance.  I didn’t used to purchase, though its typically only about $30, I do now after having been out hundreds of dollars on hotel rooms.  If your trip is delayed or cancelled due to weather – you are responsible for any expenses or losses NOT the airline.  Think about it, they would go out of business in a day… they can’t control the weather and have a vested interest in keeping us safe.  So, every time you travel, you are taking a gamble that the weather all along your flight path will be good for flying.  By adding the optional insurance, if you have a weather delay and need to overnight somewhere, you may be out of pocket that night, but insurance will reimburse you up to a certain amount.  (read the fine print before purchasing; Know what’s covered and what’s not; Make your own informed decision).  Some credit cards that you use may also have built-in travel insurance, so check that out as well.  I have an AAdvantage Card that has some perks for me when I use it to book airfare. 
  2. If booking an expensive vacation, destination wedding or cruise… check out cruise insurance or wedding insurance (I recommend www.wedsafe.com ) and travel to the destination at least 1 day ahead of time.  Sadly on the past two of my delays, I was among many passengers travelling to catch a cruise that day.  They didn’t make it.  At that point they had two choices,  rebook to the ship’s next port of call and get on board there or head home.  Those that didn’t have insurance were simply out of luck and out of money, a lot of money.  Don’t take that chance!  If you are travelling for a destination wedding be very mindful of Marriage License requirements.  On St Croix, you MUST be sworn in at the Superior Court prior to your wedding to make it legal.  They are only open M-F and are closed on MANY holidays.  This is one of the critical reasons to hire a wedding planner – be sure you are able to be sworn in and make it legal.  Consult with your wedding planner PRIOR to booking air and arrive a day or two ahead of time, particularly in the winter months when travel is more likely to be delayed.
  3. Be informed! Know your rights!  When I have been delayed, each time I IMMEDIATELY went up to the flight desk and inquired about a new routing to get me to my destination.  On my most recent delay, our flight was repeatedly delayed.  After the second delay, I calculated our arrival time in San Juan (I have the AA app on my iPhone which is really useful when traveling) and realized that there was little to no chance of me making my connection.  It was New Year’s Eve and I knew my choices were being over-nighted alone in San Juan or going home to my family’s house and starting over the next day.  I opted for the latter even though I did have trip insurance that would reimburse my hotel room. (and it was a mechanical issue, so the airline was also responsible for hotel).  I went up to the flight desk and requested to be rebooked the next day.  I was polite and patient (unlike many fellow travelers who were understandably frustrated) and was even given a complementary upgrade to business class.
  4. Carry on essentials and overnight items! If you are travelling for a destination wedding, always pack any wedding essentials (shoes, under garments, bride and groom wedding attire, jewelry) in your carry-on and carry on your dress. When boarding, ask the flight attendants to hang your dress in the first-class cabin (they are always happy to oblige).  And be sure to pack pajamas, a swim suit (if headed to a warm destination) and a change of clothes.  That way if you are over-nighted, you are prepared.  Additionally, its not unusual during times of heavy air travel for your baggage to arrive later to your destination than you.  By having the essentials and at least a days worth of backup, you can avoid undue stress and roll with it if your things are delayed.
  5. Remember the 3-1-1 Rule http://www.tsa.gov/311/  Each passenger may carry-on liquids (this includes lip gloss and mascara ladies!) of 3oz or less, packed in a transparent 1-quart zip lock or similar see-thru cosmetic bag, 1 per passenger.  Additionally, when you hit the security screening line, take out your transparent bag and put it in a bin on top of your things.  (take off your jacket and your shoes, take out any laptops in advance as well – this will speed you through the line).  I have a bag that I keep in my carry-on that is pre-loaded with sample sizes of things I need that I collect throughout the year (free gift with purchase samples are perfect for this).  That way when I travel I am ready to go and travel efficiently.  Remember that if you carry-on larger bottles (like full-sized shampoo) they WILL take it away from you.
  6. Be prepared, Be Informed and Be Patient!  You will reduce your own travel stress level if you have thought ahead, packed smartly and have all of your travel and insurance info in-hand.  Be sure to know your rights as a traveler and your responsibilities.  (You are responsible for asking for “stranded traveler hotel rates”, calling the airline or going to the flight desk to request a rerouting, etc)  Speak up if you are delayed and if you feel the flight desk isn’t helping you, call the airlines 800# for assistance (you can do that to begin with too).  Be patient with flight attendants and flight desk personnel.  They are often dealing with numerous agitated and frustrated travelers who take their frustration and confusion out on them.  The weather and mechanical issues are not their fault.  And though they are in customer service and are supposed to deal with these issues, they are human too.  A kind word and some understanding can go a long way to getting you to your destination.  Be kind, be gracious and you can be assured they will do the best they can do for you.

Say “Yes” to the Fairy-tale dress

 

Hollis channeled her inner Cinderella for a fairy-tale beach wedding on St Croix

How many of you out there spent your childhood dreaming of being a Disney Princess and planning your fairytale wedding to your Prince Charming?  Well now you can make that fantasy a reality with Disney’s new line of princess-inspired wedding gowns by Alfred Angelo

  • The treasures of the sea inspired Ariel’s gown. The mermaid silhouette features re-embroidered lace, pearl beading, and sequin sparkles.  [add to that the beautiful backdrop of the Caribbean Sea and  you've made our "Little Mermaid" fantasy a reality!]
  • Aurora/Sleeping Beauty’s gown is romantic with a dreamy, willowy skirt for this slumbering princess.
  • Belle’s wedding dress, with a draped waistline is inspired by the iconic ballroom dance scene from the film and focuses on making a grand entrance.
  • Cinderella’s gown radiates with sparkle as its inspiration is the fairy tale’s enchanted glass slipper.
  • Jasmine’s wedding dress conveys freedom and individuality and as a result her shimmering soft satin gown is exotic with a bejeweled neckline and low cut back.
  • Snow White’s dress is inspired by nature, beauty and grace like the Disney Princess character herself.
  • The regal, one-shoulder taffeta gown for our newest princess, Tiana, reflects her independent spirit with an asymmetric bodice and ruched skirt.

I often have brides ask me if its appropriate to wear a full gown for a beach wedding and I say YES, YES, YES!  In fact, the majority of my brides wear long gowns on the beach.  I do, however, have a few tips that go along with that decision:

  • When choosing your dress, be mindful of the train.  Long, flowing trains with a lot of lace will tend to pick up “hitch hikers” (bits of flotsam and jetsam) on the beach as you walk down the aisle.  They can also snag on small sticks and bits of coral or rock, so I don’t recommend having a long and lacy train or veil.
  • You WILL get hot in the tropics.  Consider having a second, lighter dress on-hand to change into after the formalities are over.  Keep it in the bridal theme and have fun with it.  Think fun and flirty white cocktail dress with sequins or choose a gown with a single-layer of breathable fabric.  This is also a great way to signal a transition in the evening to your guests – from the formal aspects to the full-on “party down” mode!
  • Be kind to your groom and bridal party!  While it may be your life-long dream to wear a long formal gown, its probably not theirs.  Choose bridesmaid dresses that are tea or cocktail length with halter, spaghetti strap or strapless necklines.  Choose natural fabrics like linen or cotton and avoid synthetics.  J. Crew has a fantastic line of affordable dresses great for the beach.    Be sure that you and your bridesmaids bring bathing suits that match the neckline of your dress to avoid tell-tale tan lines!
  • For your groom and his guys choose short sleeved Guyabera’s (traditional linen embroidered Latin wedding shirts) or light-weight suits.  By taking the time to think about the comfort of your royal subjects, you will truly be a fairy-tale princess to them!

This past summer May bride Hollis made her princess wedding dreams come true with her island destination wedding!  Though she had actually considered a Disney wedding in Florida, she and her now husband’s love of St Croix won out.  Inspired by her love of Disney princesses Belle and Cinderella, we worked together to create a fairy-tale beach wedding fit for royalty.

  • The bride channeled her inner Cinderella with an ivory gown with full skirt, beaded bodice and large bow in the back.
  • The ceremony aisle was lined with pink bougainvillea in conch shells and bunches of greenery that led up to romantic topiaries giving the beach a royal feel.  Bows of Loden green bichon silk added the final touch.
  • The flowers by Antilles Lilies had a whimsical, fantasy feel with purple and green spider mums, large pink stargazer lilies and red roses.
  • The reception décor was given a royal flair with rented gold Chiavari chairs and gilded gold chargers.  Dining tables were set with ivory linen and cocktail tables adorned with Loden silk clothes and red ties added the final touch.
  • The bride carried the theme into her musical selections, dancing with her father to “Cinderella” by Steven Curtis Chapman (an absolutely beautiful choice for a father-daughter dance for any wedding!)
  • Since they married on Cinco-de-Mayo we added in a little nod to the holiday serving Margheritas and chips and salsa!

Best Behavior for Brides and Bridesmaids

Commentary featured by GLAMOUR magazine online

Most every lady has been there – either as a bridesmaid dealing with a bridezilla, or as a bride disappointed by an uninvolved, unenthused bridesmaid. Neither party is necessarily to blame, but when the most important day in a girl’s life is at stake, the pressure is on for everyone to smile and everything to run smoothly. Miscommunication, false expectations, and feelings of burden or obligation, can call lead to shaky situations within bridal parties.

I have heard countless horror stories . . . I had a friend so embarrassed by her bridesmaid dress, that she carried a cocktail dress in her purse to change into the moment professional wedding photos were finished. A friend of a friend who was a graduate student at the time, had to set-up a yearlong payment plan with the bride’s family to repay them for the designer bridesmaid dress chosen for her by the bride. It goes without saying that in both these cases, the bride and bridesmaid were not the best of friends after the wedding.

As a recent bride and event planner turned wedding professional, I thought I would share some ideas on how to keep everyone happy and foster even stronger friendships after the wedding.

How brides can make their bridesmaids happy . . .

For my wedding in St Croix earlier this year, I included bridal party accommodations in my wedding budget. Footing the bill for a bridal suite not only lessened my bridesmaids’ travel expenses, but provided a slumber party-like environment for us to bond. On my wedding day, I offered to pay for a manicure or pedicure for each bridesmaid, so that we could get ready together in the resort spa.

Before the big day, I decided to make the dreaded bridesmaid dress a pleasant experience for all. I chose a fabric and color and let my bridesmaids choose the design of their dress through Aria. The cost of the dresses also came from my wedding budget. I had the dresses shipped directly to my bridesmaids, so that they could have them tailored to their liking. Since our ceremony was barefoot on the beach, I suggested a shoe type and color for the reception, and let my bridesmaids choose a pair from their closet collections. I made my bridesmaid gift their accessory, a hammered silver hook bracelet from Sonya’s Limited, the local company that originally began crafting the traditional island bracelet more than 40 years ago.

But the single most important thing I did as a bride to keep my bridesmaids happy was hire a wedding coordinator. SunCelebrations, the company I now coordinate with, executed my plans and took care of everything on my wedding day so that my bridesmaids and I could just relax and enjoy. In previous experiences as a bridesmaid, I had done everything from bleach outdoor chairs in the heat, to run last-minute beauty errands in the snow. I did not want my bridesmaids setting-up my ceremony or doing any of the dirty work (especially since they were on vacation too). Hiring a wedding coordinator was essential to keeping my wedding party happy.

What it takes to be a bridesmaid that remains friends with the bride after her wedding . . .

First and foremost, only say “yes” to a bride’s request to be a bridesmaid if you truly want to be a part of her big day. Particularly in situations where you’re a cousin or distant relative of the bride, you have the right to say “no thank you” upfront in a tasteful manner. Consider before agreeing if you really have the time and money necessary to devote to the wedding.

To maintain your sanity during stressful or frustrating times, remember that being a bridesmaid is an honor. By asking you to be part of her wedding, the bride is acknowledging that you have made a significant impact on her life. There are likely a handful of her family members and friends that are jealous they were not asked to be bridesmaids.

To not break the bank as a bridesmaid, consider making a gift for the bride. The couple will be overwhelmed with store-bought gifts from their wedding registries, so a handmade gift will stand out in a positive way. The most meaningful gift I received as a bride was a wedding keepsake box from my maid of honor. She simply covered a hat box with magazine cutouts of phrases and photos related to my wedding. The thought and time she put into it meant so much to me.

To keep the bride happy, try to plan ahead for a stress-free wedding day. Plan for the bridal party to get pedicures together at a spa, or participate in a calming activity like a yoga class. Surprise the bride with fruit and champagne to celebrate before the ceremony.

To stay organized, try creating an inbox folder for all wedding-related e-mails the bride and fellow bridesmaids send you. Put mailed invitations on your fridge so that you don’t have to bug the bride for times or directions on days of wedding events, like bridal showers.

Regarding the bridesmaid dress, try to happily wear whatever the bride asks you to. It boils down to a few hours wearing a dress you never have to wear again. Every guest is aware that your dress was the bride’s choice, so they will not judge you if it is a train wreck. Afterward, give your bridesmaid dress to a local Glass Slipper Project that recycles formals for girls to wear at school dances, who could not otherwise afford them. Just in case the bride ever asks, you gave the bridesmaid dress to a good cause.

In the end remember . . .

Brides: Don’t get caught-up in the silly details. Focus your attention on what your wedding is all about – you and your fiancé committing your lives to one another.

Bridesmaids: It is only one day, so just give it to the bride and enjoy.

Thanks for Remembering

Father of the Bride

The walk down the aisle from the movie Father of the Bride (photo property of Touchstone).

“Are you crying Dad?” I asked, as he tried to hide it at our rehearsal dinner.  I had only seen my Dad Jack cry once before in my life, when our dog died.  I had just handed him a thank you note and gift, a pen engraved Father of the Bride.  That movie had been special to us since I was a little girl, so it only seemed right to include a quote from it in my note.  As George (Steve Martin) walks his daughter Annie (Kimberly Williams-Paisley) down the aisle, he thinks:  This was the moment I’d been dreading for the past six months.  Well, actually for the past 22 years.

Wedding Walk

My walk down the aisle with my Dad Jack on Carambola Beach (photo by my Aunt, Sandy Smith).

In the hustle and bustle of a wedding, brides and grooms often forget to say “thank you.”  Not because they’re ungrateful, but simply because weddings are a whirlwind.  It is important to take a moment to express appreciation for those making your wedding day possible, like your parents and wedding party.  Not to mention important vendors like your officiant and all the guests traveling to see you say “I do.”

Reverand Koopmans holding our hook bracelets before we exchanged them as part of our ceremony (photo by Quiana Duncan).

Reverand Koopmans holding our hook bracelets before we exchanged them as part of our ceremony (photo by Quiana Duncan).

For destination weddings, couples often opt for thank you gifts and favors that tie-in their destination.  Personally, I selected original St Croix hook bracelets from Sonya’s for my bridesmaids.  If worn with the hook closed to others, it means your heart is taken and vice versa.  The bracelets looked beautiful worn all-together by the bridal party during our ceremony.  My husband Greg and I also gave each other hook bracelets when we exchanged wedding rings, so it made the bridesmaid’s gift all-the-more meaningful. 

Our guest welcome bags included chocolates from local shop Steele’s Smokes & Sweets, as well as small bottles of Cruzan rum with drink recipe cards attached.      

Gift Bags

A few elements of our guest welcome bags, including chocolates from Steele’s Smokes & Sweets in Christiansted (photo by my Grandma, Dorothy Paviolo).

The thank you notes you include are often as or more important than the gift you give.  Consider the following recommendations for writing them:

  • Handwriting your notes is a must.
  • Invest the time or money to make or purchase stationary.
  • Consider typing out what you want to say first to avoid sloppy spelling or grammar.
  • Think about something you could only say to the person you’re writing to.  Be it an inside joke or a meaningful memory between the two of you, try to weave it into what you write.
  • Don’t just say thank you for the [blank].  Tell the recipient why the gift is meaningful to you or what your plans are for it.  For example, in thanking someone for a monetary gift, tell them you are placing the funds into savings for your first home.      
  • The sooner you send, the better.  If you can bring thank you notes and gifts to the wedding, even better.  Etiquette guru Emily Post says thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of a gift. 

Thoughtful favors and welcome bags will certainly be appreciated by your guests.  Here are some suggestions on what to give from the knot guide to destination weddings:

  • Local food, drink or candy delicacies
  • CD from a great local musician
  • Beach towel, sunscreen, flip-flops or visor
  • Luggage tags personalized with each guest’s name and address
  • Photo albums they can fill later with pictures from the trip
  • Small stack of postcards from the destination (pre-stamped so guests can write friends back home) 

Take your time, be creative and you’ll be sure to give unforgettable thank you notes and gifts!

Traveling to your destination wedding with gifts and favors can be overwhelming, especially with items that can break or melt.  Let SunCelebrations take care of gifts and favors for you.  Say “thanks” to your guests with customized welcome bags and favors that express your style and incorporate island flair. We offer everything from embroidered beach towels and personalized luggage tags, to local chocolates and rum.  SunCelebrations can provide ideas, place /pick-up orders, assemble and deliver welcome bags (including printed itineraries) for your guests to enjoy on-arrival at their hotel, or place favors at your reception. We also offer thank you gifts for parents of the couple and wedding party.

Ashley & Greg are Moving to St Croix!

October 2009 Issue featuring article St Croix: A Virgin Isle to Call Home

October 2009 Issue featuring article "St Croix: A Virgin Isle to Call Home"

 This month’s issue of Caribbean Travel & Life magazine features an excellent 6-page article on the prospect of moving to St Croix.  The author turns out to be a friend of a friend and, as a result, many of the faces and places in the article are familiar to me.  Well that and living on a rock that measures 6 miles (at its widest point) by 24 miles, you get to know most places and faces.  Its perfect timing, because this is also the month that April 2009 St Croix Wedding clients, Ashley & Greg, move to St Croix!

The article highlights some of my favorite places and really gives a good view into our island lifestyle. 

The opening 2-page photo of Christiansted Harbor and the seaplane is simply breathtaking.  Its overlaid with the interior title “Bohemian Rhapsody”.  I guess that is a good description.  The island definitely has a bohemian feel, particularly for the expats or what locals call “Continentals”.  Here, life is a little less materialistic, a little slower.  Acceptable “business casual” attire includes shorts and flip flops.  We savor meals, slowly.  We sit back and enjoy life.  We take the time to connect with our friends and lend a helping hand when needed.  We hit the beach on a regular basis.  And most importantly, we develop a strong sense of community.  Life is good.

Whether you are interested in moving to St Croix or just visiting, I highly recommend picking up a copy of this month’s magazine.  You can even download it to your computer for only $4.99  The article includes hightlights and info on Buck Island, Zebo’s Wine Bar (one of my favorite hang outs that features an amazing menu of locally grown organics), The VI Sustainable Farm Institute  (another favorite place of mine), Restaurant Bacchus (yep you guessed it, I love this place too … and owner Natalie Collins also does bridal hair for us!), a high-adrenaline Jeep Tour to the Annaly Bay Tide Pools, and hands-down my favorite spot for St Croix weddings - Carambola Beach Resort & Spa  (if you’re interested in staying there, be sure to contact us for our discounted rates!).  Truly, it’s a great read and reminded me just why I live here in America’s Paradise.

Ashley & Greg wed at Carambola Beach April 2009.  photo (c) Quiana L Duncan

Ashley & Greg wed at Carambola Beach April 2009. photo (c) Quiana L Duncan

It also reminded me that Ashley & Greg will be here soon!!!  They’re taking the plunge and moving from Dallas to St Croix after having fallen in love with the island while planning their St Croix Destination Wedding.  Ashley & Greg were lucky enough to make two scouting trips to the island during the planning process.  With a background in PR and events, Ashley did most of the planning herself and hired SunCelebrations to step in and coordinate her wedding day with our Week of Wedding Planning Package.  This gave both Ashley & Greg the opportunity to not only have the wedding of their dreams, but to also spend time with their guests and ENJOY their day.  Ashley had a detailed vision and specific guidelines for what she wanted.  By communicating that vision in detail to us, we were able to ensure that she was relaxed on her wedding day and able to simply focus on getting dolled up and walking down the aisle.

After working with Ashley on her wedding, I had thought to myself, “Wow, I would love to have her on my team, she’d make a great wedding planner”.  So, when she told me that it was official that she and Greg were moving to St Croix, I offered her a position as an outside consultant.  Ashley will be joining our team at the beginning of October and will bring to the table a fresh perspective as a former destination bride herself!

Stay tuned for more on Ashley’s move to St Croix and an upcoming chance to participate in a free conference call  ”Ask Ashley” open to our clients and perspective clients.  Contact us today for more information!

Yes … You can wear white after Labor Day (especially at your beach wedding)

When planning wedding attire for a tropical beach wedding in the islands, there are some things that you should keep in mind in order to keep yourself, your hubby and your wedding party comfortable and happy during your big day.

Beachy Brides:  Even if you are having a casual beach wedding, you don’t have to give up on that formal dress you’ve always dreamed of – just be sure that the dress suits the environment.  Most weddings on St Croix happen about an hour before sunset, and though its breezy, its still quite warm on the beach.

Dos:

  • Choose strapless, spaghetti straps, halter or wide straps – show some sun-kissed skin!
  • Choose natural fabrics like silk or light and flowing fabrics that breathe like chiffons.
  • Think about sophisticated, classic and sleek lines.
  • Pay attention to the back of your dress – ornate backs, beadwork, open-backs show a little skin and look beautiful in pictures. 
  • Check out Dessy.com’s Destination Wedding Dress Trend Report http://www.dessy.com/wedding-planner/dress-trends/  or check out their  Destination Wedding collection http://www.dessy.com/wedding-dresses/
  • Have a bridesmaid or family member practice bustling your dress in advance.  Every dress bustles differently, and those darn little eyehooks can be hard to find.  Have someone practice bustling your dress a few times and be sure to have them on hand before the first dance to hook you up.
  • Kick off your heels.  Heels just don’t work on the beach (they don’t work well on lawns either).  There are so many options today when it comes to flip flops – from beaded and bejeweled to flips that leave a “just married” imprint in the sand.  You can even accessorize your feet with some foot jewelry.  Be sure to keep your foot attire in mind when fitting your wedding dress – you’ll want it to not drag on the ground when you are barefoot.  Fun idea:  Have a beachy spa day with your bridesmaids and treat yourselves to pedicures.  The day before your wedding, have them help you paint an exotic Henna stain on your feet.  You can get kits and ideas (be sure to practice in advance) here:  http://hennatattoo.blogspot.com/search/label/henna%20kit
  • Have a second dress. This is a growing trend that we really love.  Have a second white, less formal, lighter and more comfortable dress for after the formalities (usually once photos are done following cake cutting).  You’ll be cooler and so much more comfortable when you change and it will signal to your guests that the party has really kicked in.  True Celebrity-style!
  • Make sure your bathing suit matches the line of your dress!  There is nothing worse than big bright tan lines on your wedding day!  Be sure that the bathing suit you wear on the beach matches the line of your dress.  And give that same direction to your bridesmaids!!
  • Wear TONS of sunscreen.  The sun in the tropics is strong.  Tank tops and other shirts can also create those dreaded tan lines, so before your wedding day, be sure to be kind to your skin.  Drink lots of water, wear at least a 30spf and reapply, reapply, reapply, reapply.  This goes for your groom and wedding party too!  Photoshop can fix your photos if there is a mishap, but try to avoid it in the first place!
  • Accessorize!  A simple and elegant piece of jewelry can really set off your wedding dress.  Consider a local piece of jewelry – St Croix is known for its amazing jewelry artisans. 
    ib design Circle of Life collection

    ib design "Circle of Life" collection

    You can incorporate larimar (the azure blue Caribbean stone) for your “something blue”, pearls or other beachy elements.  We’ve even had couples exchange “Crucian Bracelets” as part of their wedding ceremony!  For apres ceremony, paper parasols will keep the sun off add a little flare to your pics.

  • Some of our favorite jewelers on St  Croix are
    ib design (Kenny Chesney wears one of Whealon’s St John bracelets!)   , Sonya’s (creator of the original St Croix Hook)  and Crucian Gold
  • Looking for some real bling?  Consider renting jewelry for you and your bridal party from Adorn Brides

 Don’ts:

  • Wear a long train – dragging your train down the beach is sure to pick up “hitchhikers” (pieces of seaweed, stones, etc) as you walk down the sandy aisle.  Choose a chapel length or short train if you really can’t go without.
  • Get burned!!!  I can’t stress this enough.  Sunscreen and the shade are your friend.  Burns not only look bad in your pictures, but they are uncomfortable and unhealthy.  Don’t ruin your wedding day by being over enthusiastic with tanning and neglecting good skincare!

A cool Groom is a happy Groom (groomsmen too):  I can’t stress enough that you should not only think about the look and feel you want for your wedding, but also how your wedding party will feel wearing it.  Consider the heat and humidity at a beach wedding and also consider whether your reception will be al fresco, dining outside under the stars, or will it be in an air-conditioned venue. 

Dos:

  • Again, choose natural fabrics and avoid synthetics.  100% Cotton and linen breathe keeping your guys cooler, more comfortable and preventing excessive sweat stains.
  • If you really want your guys in suits or tuxes, keep them in linen or cotton light summer-weight suits.  Consider having them wear short sleeve linen shirts underneath so that after portraits, they too can get comfortable.
  • Consider cotton shirts with ties.  They still have a smart, clean look but are cooler than jackets.
  • Guayaberras.  Guy-a-whos?!  Guayaberras!!  Traditional Latin American linen wedding shirts.  These shirts are usually embroidered down the front and were traditional wedding attire in hot, steamy climates.  The look beautiful on the beach and are the perfect touch for a casually, elegant beach wedding.  Try matching the embroidery thread to your wedding colors for an extra pop of color.

    white linen Guayabera

  • For a fun, casual style wedding, have your groomsmen wear tropical-style shirts in the same pattern or for a little extra fun, have them pick out their own. 
  • Have your guys go barefoot or wear nice leather sandals.  These can still look smart with a formal suit.  (just be sure to leave out the socks!)

Don’ts:

  • Expect your groom and/or groomsmen to keep jackets on for the reception.
  • Don’t forget about the heat!  Choose synthetic fabrics like rayon.
  • Don’t leave your groomsmen standing on the beach for half an hour waiting for you.  Plan your hair & makeup preparations carefully, giving yourself plenty of time to avoid running late.   Sweats stains will creep into your wedding photos.
  • Resources:
    http://www.theguayaberashirtstore.com/ 
    We LOVE Tommy Bahama:  http://www.tommybahama.com/TBG/Men/Wedding.jsp  
     
 

 

photo (c) Kelly Greer Photographer

photo (c) Kelly Greer Photographer

 

For the Bridesmaids:

  Again, light weight, no more than 2-layers and natural fabrics are ideal.  Think bright colors or jewel tones inspired by the natural surroundings.    Also think about the type of flowers you would like them to carry.  I think that flowers that contrast with the dresses pop and look stunning in pictures – think bright orange & reds with a turquoise or deep blue dress.  Or lime-green cymbidium orchids against a navy dress.  If you’re getting married in the tropics, there’s no need to be afraid of color!

 

 
Dos:
  • Give your bridesmaids direction with color, but allow them to choose a style  and neckline that flatters their figure.
  • Choose colors that pop and compliment your theme.
  • Remind your bridesmaids to wear a bathing suit that matches the neckline of their dress!
  • Give your bridesmaids the gift of sunscreen!
  • For more casual beach weddings, consider giving your girls some color direction, but letting them go and pick out their own sundresses.
  • For a more dramatic look, consider long, flowing, chiffon gowns in your theme colors.
  • Accessorize your gals with simple pendants that compliment the neckline of their dresses.

Don’ts

  • Go too formal.  There’s a reason you are having a beach wedding!
  • Forget to have fun! Don’t let the stress of “the perfect wedding” take the fun out of planning.  Keep your inner bridezilla at bay.
  • Resources:
    We love the fun, colorful patterns of Lily Pulitzer http://www.lillypulitzer.com/
    J.  Crew’s style and fabrics are great for tropical weddings  http://www.jcrew.com/AST/Navigation/Wedding.jsp

 For your guests:  Be sure to give your guests at your Destination Wedding a little direction too so that they pack just what they need.  For island elegant, semi-formal weddings specify that gentleman should wear jackets and ties, ladies in gowns or cocktail dresses.  For more casual weddings suggest button down shirts for men and sundresses for the ladies.  To incorporate your guests into your theme – recommend a color for guests or request that all gentlemen wear tropical shirts.  We’ve even done weddings where the bride & groom requested that everyone wear flip flops and the invitation included a note that there would be a “best flip flop” parade and contest at the reception.  Guests had a blast coming up with some really unique footwear.  How fun is that?!

Remember, if you’ve already chosen to have a destination wedding, you’re already “thinking outside the box”.  Have fun with it and keep the comfort of your wedding party and guests in mind when planning.  They’ll thank you for it and you’ll all enjoy yourselves that much more!

 Sun & Smiles,
Cindy

all photos courtesy Kelly Greer Photographer and Quiana L Duncan Photography

all photos courtesy Kelly Greer Photographer and Quiana L Duncan Photography

Special thanks to Kelly Greer Photographer and Quiana L Duncan for their amazing photos!  All weddings above are from our previous SunCelebrities (TM)!